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How to Know if its Love

famous love saying quotationWondering how to know if you are in love? Here are some guidelines to help you decide if it's love.

Before you proceed reading this, first read difference between infatuation and love

It is a very common question, "How can I tell I'm in love?", but it is not an easy question to answer. What feels like love to one person may be nothing more than attraction to another. Some people fall in and out of love quickly and often while others are never really in love as much as they are in lust.

How to Know if You are Really in Love
  • Does the object of your affections make you feel special and good about yourself?
  • Do you as serene as when you and your partner are together?
  • When you fight with your partner do you usually make up within a few hours and you always agree that nothing is more important than you both being able to express your true feelings?
  • Do you feel that you are more yourself when with your partner than you are with anybody else?
  • Do you enjoy looking at the person or talking to the person more?
  • Ask yourself: 'Am I willing to sacrifice my dreams to allow her/his dreams to come true?'
  • Ask yourself: 'Do I respect and admire her/him?'
  • Ask yourself: 'Would I feel the same way if s/he got sick?'
  • Ask yourself: 'If you two were in an argument, would you feel the same way?'
If you answered 'Yes' to all of these questions, wow, you feel very strongly about this person. It sounds like you're in love!


Know what love isn’t:
Do you want them because you know they're there?
* It NOT Love, it's Loneliness.

Do you stay for their confessions of Love, because you don't want to hurt them?
* It NOT Love, it's Pity.

Are you there because they kissed you, or held your hand?
* It isn't Love, it's being Unconfident.

Do you pardon their faults because you care about them?
* It isn't Love, it is Friendship.

Do you tell them every day they are the only one you think of?
* It isn't Love, it's a Lie.

Are you willing to give all of your favorite things for their sake?
* It isn't Love, it's Charity.

Guide to know its love

Does your heart ache and break when they're sad?
* Then it's Love.

Are you attracted to others, but stay with them faithfully without regret?
* Then it's Love.

Do you cry for their pain, even when they're strong?
* Then it's Love.

Do their eyes see your true heart, and touch your soul so deeply it hurts?
* Then it's Love.

Would you give them your heart, your life?
* Then it's Love.

Now, if Love is painful, and tortures us so,
why do we Love?
Why is it all we search for in life?
This pain, this agony?
Why is it all we long for?
This torture, this powerful death of self?
Because it's...
(Unknown Author)

Love is a decision we make, a matter of the will. Love is not to be identified with emotions alone. Feelings are certainly a part of love, and our emotional response to people is one way of finding someone we could choose to love. What exactly do we choose to do in loving someone? One of the things we choose is to make a commitment.

Love means putting the other person's needs ahead of your own, even when that involves sacrifice. While blind agreement to any difference of opinion is unrealistic and unreasonable, a thoughtful discussion of what is better for each of you individually as well as both of you as a couple needs to take place.

Useful Tips:

*If you're wondering if you're in love, this is often because you might base a decision on your answer. Be careful! Decisions should not be based just on the feeling of 'love'. You should also look at respect, commitment and trust.

*Ask yourself what it means to you if you believe you're in love. Don't put pressure on yourself to define what you're feeling as love. And don't let anyone else pressure you either.

*Actions speak louder than words. It's better to know someone loves you without being told 'cause anyone can say 'I love you' and also it does not matter how long you're together to say 'I love you' cause love has no time limit you go by when it's there it's there, say it when you feel it and it could be infatuation but I would hope you'd know the difference.

How to know if someone really loves you

  • You will know if a person loves you if he/she will do everything just to make you smile in every single way.
  • You will know if someone loves you if he/she sacrifices his/her own emotions just to make you happy.
  • You will know if someone loves you he/she Shows his care for you trough actions not through words.
  • You will know if someone loves you if he/she accepts you know matter who you are whole heartedly
Hope this will help you in finding your true love and know that you are really in love.
Good luck!

Recommended Reading:
Sweet Love Quotes
The thing about love
Any suggestions….Post through comment.

With input from Roshan---content contributor for this blog.

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  1. Merlyn8/14/2009

    Lovely Post.

    It can be very easy to fall in love with someone, but there are some questions to ask yourself before deciding if your feeling for someone is really a love and is leading you in the right direction. You blog will be helpful to know if it's really love.

  2. Nathalie8/19/2009

    "Love is a choice. The chemical feel-good reaction can always be there but is not to be trusted. Find someone whose moral values are the same as yours and if you love yourself, you will be in love with that person. Commitment is the next step and love follows."

    -- Pat Zietlow, Cashton, WI

    "You can never "know" you are in love, you can only feel it inside with your heart. The mind is a separate matter. Only when mind and heart become one in the enlightened man do you know love of the Self, of Another, and then of All others."

    --J.E. Ante

    Impressive blog.

  3. Sheila8/19/2009

    Top 5 signs to know that you’re falling in love
    1. You’re falling in love if you thinking alot about that person all of the time.
    2. You’re in love if you’re actually interested in knowing more about them.
    3. You’re in love if hanging out with your friends just isn’t as appealing any more
    4. You’re in love if commitment is actually starting to sound like something you could stand.
    5.You’re in love if you everytime want to impress that person who have impressed you.


  4. Sonam Kaul8/25/2010

    This is good post on how to know if you are in love.
    I think you feel "you are in love" with someone when that person makes you feel so special.
    And really love just happens, when your eyes sees your dream person.